How to test your new marriage (and where I’ve been for the past six months)

test your new marriage

If you regularly follow this blog (or just glance through the dates I’ve posted stuff), you might be wondering why there have been no new posts for many, many months.

The good news is, I haven’t died. Nor have I relegated Lace & Feathers to the land of permanently abandoned blogs languishing in various corners of the Internet wasteland. It’s just been, uh, resting. Which is exactly what I haven’t been doing.

If you’re looking for a way to test the strength of your new marriage, I have been personally road testing a pretty surefire method over the past 3 – 6 months. All you need to do is follow these steps to place you and your marriage under a reasonable (but not completely unbearable) load of stress in order to bring any simmering tensions to the surface for examination: Continue reading

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Wedding stress

wedding stress girlUp until about three months ago, we weren’t feeling stressed about the wedding at all. Things were going smoothly, we were a picture of organisation (spreadsheets, lists, and spreadsheets of all our lists…), and it just wasn’t a big deal.

But then, as it started getting closer to the actual day – we became stressed. And now, with less than two weeks to go, I’m practically a walking meltdown in progress.

See, it doesn’t matter how organised you are. In fact, being more organised can make things worse, because you’re acutely aware at all times of the sheer volume of things that you need to to. All the little details that need to be arranged, purchased, decorated, sorted, transported; the people who need to be contacted and asked to help out; the contact numbers and exact times to put in the run sheet for the photographers. Continue reading

Why I’m getting married

vintage peacock wedding

To a lot of people, it probably seems very strange that my fiance and I have decided to marry each other. We had our first date in the middle of August 2013 and will be heading down the aisle in December 2014. We’re both young (I’m 24, he’s 23). We don’t even live together, and each of us has only been in one brief prior relationship with someone else. Crazy, right? Like we barely know each other! We’re so young and haven’t even played the field!

And yet here we are, making a lifelong commitment to each other and actually, genuinely intending to honour that commitment by staying together for the long haul. Even if we “fall out of love” with each other. Even if things “aren’t working out”.

In a world where there are so many different views on relationships and marriage, I just thought I’d offer up my own thoughts on why I’m getting married. Continue reading

What it’s like writing personal stuff on the Internet

cat at computer

A little over a month ago, I pitched a feature story to a website that I’m a fan of, Hello Giggles. It’s a women’s lifestyle website with plenty of interesting, first-person stories about the highs and lows of life for women of my general demographic, mixed with op-ed style pieces about current affairs that relate to women, and lighter, fun, humorous articles reminiscent of Buzzfeed (but with more depth). Anyway, I really like the site, and as an aspiring writer seeking a little bit of exposure, I was over the moon when they agreed to publish it.

Despite my impending Internet fame and glory, however, I couldn’t really tell many people about it – because I didn’t want them to read it. The story I sent to Hello Giggles was about what it’s like to have your first kiss in your twenties. Continue reading

Why this “contraceptive chip” would be great

contraceptive chip microchipIn July this year, a US tech startup called MicroCHIPS announced their latest product in development: a contraceptive microchip. The tiny chip would provide birth control for up to 16 years and – the best part – could be turned on and off via remote control.

Strangely (or predictably?), the immediate response to this news was suspicion. Suspicion that the device could be easily hacked.

I don’t know, when I read the news, my initial response was “where do I sign up for this, right now?” (It’s still in the development and trials stages, so it’s still very unavailable at this stage.)

You see, I think this sounds fantastic. Fantastic for so many reasons. Continue reading