How to change your name after marriage

change name after marriage

Keen to escape a lifetime of having my previous surname misspelled, I took the traditional route and took my husband’s surname. Which, of course, meant that I then had to go and update all my official documents.

I was surprised at how difficult it was at times to find the information I needed to update various documents. For example, my passport – there was no clear information available about how to actually change my name (where to go, what form to fill out, etc). So I thought I’d write about how I did it.

Keep in mind I live in New South Wales, Australia, and I changed my name in early 2015. Some of this information may not apply to your state (or country), or there may be a brand new process involved. But here’s what worked for me. Continue reading

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How to test your new marriage (and where I’ve been for the past six months)

test your new marriage

If you regularly follow this blog (or just glance through the dates I’ve posted stuff), you might be wondering why there have been no new posts for many, many months.

The good news is, I haven’t died. Nor have I relegated Lace & Feathers to the land of permanently abandoned blogs languishing in various corners of the Internet wasteland. It’s just been, uh, resting. Which is exactly what I haven’t been doing.

If you’re looking for a way to test the strength of your new marriage, I have been personally road testing a pretty surefire method over the past 3 – 6 months. All you need to do is follow these steps to place you and your marriage under a reasonable (but not completely unbearable) load of stress in order to bring any simmering tensions to the surface for examination: Continue reading

Wedding stress

wedding stress girlUp until about three months ago, we weren’t feeling stressed about the wedding at all. Things were going smoothly, we were a picture of organisation (spreadsheets, lists, and spreadsheets of all our lists…), and it just wasn’t a big deal.

But then, as it started getting closer to the actual day – we became stressed. And now, with less than two weeks to go, I’m practically a walking meltdown in progress.

See, it doesn’t matter how organised you are. In fact, being more organised can make things worse, because you’re acutely aware at all times of the sheer volume of things that you need to to. All the little details that need to be arranged, purchased, decorated, sorted, transported; the people who need to be contacted and asked to help out; the contact numbers and exact times to put in the run sheet for the photographers. Continue reading

Why I’m getting married

vintage peacock wedding

To a lot of people, it probably seems very strange that my fiance and I have decided to marry each other. We had our first date in the middle of August 2013 and will be heading down the aisle in December 2014. We’re both young (I’m 24, he’s 23). We don’t even live together, and each of us has only been in one brief prior relationship with someone else. Crazy, right? Like we barely know each other! We’re so young and haven’t even played the field!

And yet here we are, making a lifelong commitment to each other and actually, genuinely intending to honour that commitment by staying together for the long haul. Even if we “fall out of love” with each other. Even if things “aren’t working out”.

In a world where there are so many different views on relationships and marriage, I just thought I’d offer up my own thoughts on why I’m getting married. Continue reading

What it’s like writing personal stuff on the Internet

cat at computer

A little over a month ago, I pitched a feature story to a website that I’m a fan of, Hello Giggles. It’s a women’s lifestyle website with plenty of interesting, first-person stories about the highs and lows of life for women of my general demographic, mixed with op-ed style pieces about current affairs that relate to women, and lighter, fun, humorous articles reminiscent of Buzzfeed (but with more depth). Anyway, I really like the site, and as an aspiring writer seeking a little bit of exposure, I was over the moon when they agreed to publish it.

Despite my impending Internet fame and glory, however, I couldn’t really tell many people about it – because I didn’t want them to read it. The story I sent to Hello Giggles was about what it’s like to have your first kiss in your twenties. Continue reading

10 tips for hosting a fantastic engagement party

hosting engagement partyWe had our engagement party recently, and it was a blast. My fiance and I both agreed afterwards that it was the most successful party either of us have ever had. Admittedly, we both had somewhat poor track records in this regard. But this time, it seemed our guests had a good time, everything went smoothly, and we were able to enjoy the afternoon.

It wasn’t anything too over the top – just a nice, casual relaxed afternoon with good food and good company. So what’s the secret to hosting an engagement party that everyone can enjoy? Continue reading